Our expert says:
The time after a pregnancy can be one of great change. It sounds like you have experienced the changes that come with a baby, and that which comes with losing a relationship. These can be unsettling times that can interfere with your idea of yourself as a sexual person. Breastfeeding, having a baby around you all the time, the changes in your body, sleeplessness and fatigue may all make you feel less sexy. Breastfeeding may also cause a low interest in sex because of the hormones that get stimulated by it. When you stop breastfeeding (don’t do it for this reason!) you may find your sexual interest increasing.
I am also wondering if you have not been sad, or experiencing some feelings of depression. It is not unusual for women to feel very low in the months after having a baby. If this is the case, then see your doctor…you may be suffering with a post-natal depression. This can be treated.
You mention that you don’t like the idea of someone penetrating you. Perhaps you are wary of a new relationship, or protecting yourself at a time when you are vulnerable, especially with a new baby to look after.
What is important to know, is that it is normal to experience a decrease in sexual interest during the year after pregnancy. Nothing you have said strikes me as abnormal. Go easy on yourself, enjoy your baby, and remember to give yourself time. Treat your body well and keep up a feeling of being sexual.
Anthony – SASHA. For further information please consult SASHA’S website at www.sexualhealth.qw.co.za/dru. For referral to a professional in your vicinity, please send an email to firstname.lastname@example.org.
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