Our expert says:
Your problem is a relationship problem, not really a sexual one, though they have a sexual aspect to them.
The issues you raise include showing mutual consideration for each other, communication of your needs and expressing anger in a non-destructive way. Above all, I can see that your challenge is to know what is good and healthy for you, and make firm decisions about these. In this way, you will know who you are, what you stand for, and will not be victimised within a relationship.
It’s not acceptable for anyone to misrepresent themselves or put others at risk of sexually transmitted diseases, so it’s best to be upfront and honest if you are having sex with multiple partners simultaneously.
Continuing to have sex with your ex-boyfriend is likely to confuse you, and prevent you from keeping clear boundaries and from moving on. Hard as it may be, if your ex has gotten on with his life, and the two of you cannot see a way forward together, then it is time to move on – completely.
Anthony – SASHA. For further information please consult SASHA’S website at www.sexualhealth.qw.co.za/dru. For referral to a professional in your vicinity, please send an email to firstname.lastname@example.org.
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