Posted by: Eva | 2007/07/19

Loss - prem twins - 26weeks

Coping with loss of prem twins - they lived only 30 & 42 hours

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Dear Eva
I am so sorry for your loss. This is hard to cope with, but I am sure the response you will get from other parents who shared a similar experience on this site, will be very helpfull.

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Posted by: Mpums | 2007/10/30

I just started today at this forum.
I just want to express my condolence to you Eva,and to tell you that you are not alone.I've been there too,I had a stillbirth in Aug 07 at week 38 (full term).

Thanks God I've been to this carring and loving forum.I am touched by the above poem,it's so comforting to hear that our babies came to us whilst we are sleeping.

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Posted by: a | 2007/10/10


Just wanted to say that I lost my baby at 26 weeks as well. He was a little angel and lived for a few days. The poem above made me want to cry but it's true... we don't have the final say in this world and our babies are in God's hands. What better place can they be in!

Special love & understanding from someone who's been there!

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Posted by: Peta | 2007/08/10

I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your angels.

Found this poem on the pregnancy website, hope it helps you understand a little better that some angels are only sent to us for a little while. Thinking of you.
What Makes a Mother?

I thought of you and closed my eyes
And prayed to God today
I asked “What makes a Mother?”
And I know I heard him say.

“A Mother has a baby”
This we know is true
“But God can you be a Mother,
when your baby is not with you?”

“Yes, you can,” He replied
with confidence in his voice
“I give many women babies,
when they leave is not their choice.

Some I send for a lifetime,
and others for the day.
And some I send to feel your womb,
but there’s no need to stay.”

“I just don’t understand this God
I want my baby to be here.”
He took a deep breath and cleared his throat,
and then I saw the tear.

“I wish I could show you
what your child is doing today.
If you could see your child’s smile,
with all the other children and say…

“We go to Earth to learn our lessons,
of love and life and fear.
My Mommy loved me oh so much,
I got to come straight here.

I feel so lucky to have a Mom,
who had so much love for me.
I learned my lessons very quickly,
My Mommy set me free.

I miss my Mommy oh so much,
but I visit her every day.
When she goes to sleep,
on her pillow’s were I lay

I stroke her hair and kiss her cheek
and whisper in her ear.
‘Mommy don’t be sad today,
I’m your baby and I’m here.’”

“So you see my dear sweet ones,
your children are okay.
Your babies are born here in My home,
and this is where they’ll stay.

They’ll wait for you with Me,
until your lesson’s through.
and on the day that you come home
they’ll be at the gate for you.

So now you see what makes a Mother,
it’s the feeling in your heart.
It’s the love you had so much of
right from the very start

Though some on Earth may not realise,
you are a Mother
until their time is done.
they’ll be up here with Me one day
and know that you are the best one!”

Lots and lots of hugs from me to you today and always.

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Posted by: Sunshine-twins | 2007/08/08

Hi Eva

I'm very sorry for your loss.

I've also lost my twins at 24 weeks - 5 April 2007, had prem labor, first has already passed on, due to them being identical, they couldn't stop labor. Second was alive, but passed on after some time.

I'm sorry for your loss. I haven't not being for counsellors yet. But I know its something I still have to do, I do miss them as well. I'm very sorry for your loss.

as Sky said, talking helps.

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Posted by: MOm of 1 boy | 2007/08/08

Eva i lost my baby also at 26 week the 8 dec 2005. I'm still missing her, but my baby boy are today 9 mnd, and I love him to bits. I'f got a cervix that can't hold weight and she was born. Why where they born early?

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Posted by: sky | 2007/07/24

Oh Shame. what was the problem why were they born early. I believe talking about them will help.

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Posted by: Kym | 2007/07/19

I am so sorry. Please contact SA Preemies and get one of our angel counsellors to help you. (0860 17 1136). Our Angel counsellors as all parents of prems that have not survived.


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