Our expert says:
Hi CPM. Regards from the cat, who, after being on heat for 2 months, screaming and running round like the wild thing she is, has now quietened for 2 days. So I type with fingers crossed, so my spelling may be worse than ever !
Sory to hear of this patch of discouragement. I suspect most of us feel like that at times ( especially those trying hard to do something worthwhile ). The issue of Ne's newly acquired physical power is a very relevant point most folks don't think of. In some ways, it may be necessary to avoid physical confrontations in part so as not to alert her to the degree of power she now has.
From your story, I wonder whether part of the proble could be this. Unfairly ( to yourself ) you feel guilty when you leave her alone with a competent caregiver, so you reward her by buying her gifts and treats --- rewaerd her for staying at home. Then, having taught her that staying at home is to be rewarded, you expect her to go to school, instead. She's happy at home, but you feel guilty for letting her be happy there ? And then when she whines in the mall, you threaten her with sending her home where she's happy. Can you see how she could find that confusing ?
Maybe it is good for her to get out and meet people, but maybe not on the occasions that are handy like when you have shopping to do. Maybe plan somem shorter ( till she gets used to them and behaves better ) outings JUST so she can be out and among people.
She may act up with you because at some level she recognizes that you care more deeply than others, and that even with her limited skills, she might manipulate you ?
It ain't easy. If it was easy, they could leave such jobs to Julius Malema
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