Our expert says:
Grief is hard work, and anniversaries can be especially difficult times. You are normal, and not at all a drama queen. People differ in how they deal with grief, and some try to ignore it and deny it, though in the end this usually doesn't work out for them as well as they expect it to. YOur husband is in denial, especially when you describe him not wanting pictures of your child in the home, and getting angry when you show grief, which you hav every right to do.
Suppressing this as he seems to be suggesting is more likely to keep the wound open and unhealed than mourning and grieving in a more natural way, as you do.
YOu are absolutely not crazy, or stupid in any way whatsoever. Grief usually takes at least a year to begin to resolve, and in your situation this has almos certainly been delayed by your husband's response which is by far more unusual and unhelpful.
And a proper resolution of one's grief is not about forgetting the person one lost, or pretending they never existed, hiding their pictures and avoiding talking of them, but in moving towards remembering all the happy aspects of that relationship, rather than being focussed so completely on the loss and the bitter sadness.
Do arrange to see a personal counsellor with experience of grief, to help you continue to work through this, and to deal with your husband's inability to grieve normally and to face facts.
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