Our expert says:
it sounds as if your bf WAS peviously behaving like a louse and treating you badly, so it would be very understandable if you still felt, at some level, hurt and resentful over what happened --- or at least deeply cautious about whether his change for the better could slide back towards his old ways.
On the othr hand you describe rather a dramatic change of behaviour on his part, very much for the better ; something nobody does easily, so it must represent considerable efort on his pat, and may suggest that he really does love you.
To help to work things out together, so that you can feel safer that the good side of him is what will persist, and so you can become more affectionate and comfortable with him again, and so that he can find it easier to remain good, and to encourage you -- why not think about the two of you, jointly, getting involved in some relatonship counselling, like marriage counselling, to sort things out even better between you ? Congratulations onn how well you have grown strong in some aspects of yourself ; now is the time to continue, growing stronger in other ways as well.
It's a pity that his mom still sticks to old ways of classing people --- generally, people who fel insecure about their own status, try to find some comfort from finding reasons for looking down on someone else. it's sad. And in most cultures, there is now some degree of gap between your generation and the older generation, who hold to more traditional ways ( or at least those aspcts of tradition that suits them ! ) and the younger generation who have become more cosmopolitcan and flexible. If the two of you can make things work between you, his mother will have to cme to term with it, don't let her spoil things in the meantime by taking her attitudes too seriously.
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