Posted by: beingsave | 2003/01/29

lesbian sex between a couple

if you have been with your lover for a long time now and u know she's save just like you. Two women loving each other there's nothing wrong with it. You don't have to use save sex if ur totally 100 % sure you're save? Is that ok? If you know this is the only woman for you? I mean if you and your partner have nothing to fear of and u know that each other is save and fully 100% sure you're healty and all, there's nothing wrong with it, right? Cos' there's no way u can get the disease? Is that true or not? That is with no sex toys. we're totally not into that. Are we save?

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It's a common misperception that sex between women is without risk. In fact, there are still health care providers out there with misinformation and a lack of knowledge in this area. While sexually transmitted infections (STIs), especially HIV, are generally less common among lesbian women than their heterosexual and bisexual counterparts, lesbians are also well advised to practice safer sex. The reality is that sexual health risks have little to do with who you are or who you are sexually attracted to, and lots to do with what you do and how you do it. However, the risk for getting an STI through sex between women increases if one or more partners has or has had sex with men with STIs (whether known or not).

Safer sex between two women involves many of the same strategies as for any set of partners, and the ideas below can be part of sex without ruining the mood. The causes of most concern are bodily fluids, including menstrual blood, vaginal juices, breast milk, and secretions from STI sores. Here are some safer sex tips:

During oral sex, cover the entire vaginal or anal area with a dam (a square of latex), non-microwaveable plastic wrap, or a cut-open condom or latex glove. Use creative means of keeping the latex or wrap in place, such as a garter belt, to leave your hands free to roam. During vulva-to-vulva sex, a similar latex barrier can be placed over the vaginal area.
Manual penetration of the vagina and anus can be risky if a partner's fingers or hand have sores or open cuts. If you're concerned about this, use latex gloves, condoms, or finger cots. Always use new "materials" when moving from the anus to the vagina, or between partners.
If you use sex toys, wash them in hot, soapy water or with a bleach solution before sharing, or use fresh condoms on them for each partner.
Generally, S&M practices are safe, unless blood or bodily fluids are involved. (And they're consensual, of course!) For example, clean any piercing needles with bleach before using them on someone else.
If you shave one another, use a separate razor for each partner.
If either woman suspects that she might have an STI, it's important that she be tested and sex avoided until both partners have been tested and (if necessary) treated. Some partners like to get tested together, just in case. This can help to ease your minds and may even increase your sense of connectedness, too.

It's important to remember that several STIs — for example, herpes and Human Papillomavirus (HPV) — are transmitted through skin-to-skin contact. You can put a latex barrier over the area affected, and/or refrain from sexual activity when the virus is active: right before a flare-up and while sores are present. For more detailed information, see Herpes info for lesbians and Genital warts on the website

It can often be helpful, too, to think broadly about safer sex between women. Yeast and infections such as bacterial vaginosis can be transmitted between women, and you can use the pointers above to prevent this. Also, rimming, or oral pleasuring of the anus, brings risks of hepatitis A and gastrointestinal problems. In this case, you can use dams or a condom slipped over your tongue to protect you and your lover.

There's lots of information and suggestions around, whether in books, videos, or by the soft light of the computer screen. Check these out:

Sexual Health
Lesbian STD web site
Our Bodies, Ourselves for the New Century, by the Boston Women's Health Book Collective
The Whole Lesbian Sex Book: A Passionate Guide for All of Us, by Felice Newman
National AIDS Hotline: 0800.012.322

Dr Elna Mcintosh

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Our users say:
Posted by: beingsafe | 2003/01/31

Thank u all for ur replies but i don't see how u can get hiv through someone thats totally 100 % healty! thats impossible! U can only get aids if ur partner has it! thats what i want to know and tell everyone, its importand to have safe sex i know! but if ur gonna get married and spend life with that person thats 100 % healty, how can u get aids, thats impossible! Am i right?

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Posted by: Vetrix | 2003/01/30

Maby you mean safe not save but anyway it sounds to me like you are trying to convince yourself that its ok, well every person in the world can tell right from wrong and it all your choise to belive that its ok or not.
Well as for it being safe, its proably just as risky as with any other sex.

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