My boyfriend is divorced - Has been separeted ie. not living with his ex-wife or kids for 3.5 years. Weve been together for 3 years and Ive been a part of the kids lives for the last 2 years. The divorce has also been final for 2 years.

Before anybody jumps on me about being involved with a technically married man.

1. She asked for the divorce and then dragged it out for 18months because she wanted more money than he had.
2. I only met the kids when the divorce was final.
3. I didnt know him until after they had split. So I had nothing to do with the breakdown of the marriage. This was the 2nd time she had instituted divorce proceedings.

Anyway, my question. He has two kids who are now 6 and 10. At what point do the kids stop crying and asking for mom and dad to get back together?

The little one wasnt even 3 yet when mom and dad split and she still crys every Sunday evening when its time to go home that she wants dad to go and live with mom again. The the 10 yr old asks when mom and dad are going to get back together again all the time. Its like my relationship with their dad doesnt even exist.

Is there something going on at home that is confusing them ie is mom not spelling out the boundary and giving them the idea that there is hope for reconciliation? Or do kids never come to terms with mom and dad being split up. We are a happy couple and intend to get married one day. Im so scared that his kids are going to hate me. How can we help them?