Our expert says:
Good to hear that you're heading in the right direction with your Bipolar Disorder.
It's not a question of learning not to care, but of learning how to care efficiently. I'm sorry they've had bad floods in Bangladesh, but there's really nothing at all I can do about it. And if I get too wound up in just feeling bad about those floods, I will become significantly less able to care effectively for problems closer to home, where I CAN make a useful difference.
Its sad that so many of the people you know are experiencing various kids of difficulties, but significant that you cannot directly help them. THEY need to recognize their difficulties and get the right sorts of expert help to sort them out. Your husband, for instance, needs to recognize that sitting in a pub will NEVER improve his depression or any of the things he may feel depressed about, and that he needs to see a good local shrink ( or at least a very good GP ) for proper assessment and treatment advice.
As you've discovered you can't ( and shouldn't) MAKE other people sort out their varied messes --- only they can and should do that. And as may be the problem with some in your family, the risk, even of helping out with a little cash now and then, is that they may come to rely on it, and use it as an excuse NOT to do for themselves much of what they must do.
You cant do it all. They can and must. But you need to be patient and simply encourage them to get the right expert help they need.
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