Our expert says:
Gay, lesbian and bisexual expert
Your issue is not limited to Jhb - it certainly applies to Cape Town, and I can only imagine how difficult it must me in places like Upington or Bloemhof. Perhaps I'm old-fashioned about this but I like the idea of dating. Getting to know someone, a bit of romance, taking it slowly, a touch of anticipation. For many gay men in particular a 'date' is simply a pre-arranged sexual encounter, with resultant relationships based on lust. I'm amazed when I hear of couples meeting to have sex, moving in together three days later and being surprised and devastated when the relationship ends two months down the line. In such instances there was never space for a true relationship to develop. I think our lesbian sisters are one up on gay men when it comes to dating and courting each other.
Thanks for posting your message. I'm interested in what others will say about this issue.
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