Our expert says:
Even to this day, I wonder how many Guidance Counsellors are properly trained to deal with this not at all uncommon situation ? So yes, it would probably have been more helpful if you'd seen a more expert counsellor at the time. But also we vary individually in how such events and experiences afect us, and while some of us remain lastingly upset, others of us are better able to put it behind us. And sadlt, some parents, like your mother, are reluctant to believe that such things happen at all ( less as disbelieving you, than disbelieving the reality of such activities ).
... has it about right. There are no absolute criteria for deciding if you are over such an experience, But you probably are if youj don't often think of it, don't feel great discomfort when you do think of it for some reason, and if you are able to lead a happy and content life, sociall, in relationships, and in work.
Espcially if you have consistent problems in relationships or related to sexual activities, you may find it still beneficial to see a good practical local CBT-style counsellor
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