Posted by: Teddy | 2003/03/06


I’m having a relationship with this guy for more than 3yrs now. When we met he was involved with someone else and they were staying together and have a son together. Lat year they broke up because he was inlove with me. We’re now staying together and have a 1yr old baby. The problem is that I’m so very much insecured. The minute he speaks with someone on the phone I start to panic thinking he’s speaking to the ex. Even he comes home late / something I’ll start thinking that he’s been with his ex. I don’t know if this is some kind of sickness / what but I’d like to stop being insecurred.

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Teddy, not a sickness, but a predictable problem and dilemma. I keep trying to remind people that while it's actually hard to accurately predict how someone else will behave, their previous behaviour is about the best predictor of their future behaviour. So, a guy who lived with one woman and had a baby with her ; then moved on to another woman and had another baby, is not a guy I'd be eager to trust completely to remain faithful. But of course he might be entirely faithful, and being excessively suspicious might run the risk of making him feel justified in moving away. If its practical, getting both of you involved in marriage / relationship counselling might be a good idea.

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Posted by: pussy galore | 2003/03/06

Thats it in a nutshell, if you do it once you can do it again, so I say you have reason to worry, I am just sorry you had to bring a child into this unstable relationship

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Posted by: Paul | 2003/03/06

Of course you will be insecure and you have every reason to be. He left her for you after all, so then your healthy mind is saying "he can leave you for someone else". Im not sure what to tell you to do now, originally I would have said, keep away until he is free.

Good luck.

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