Our expert says:
Someone already in major debt and without a job, suggests someone who can be expected to have employment and money problems, however loving they might seem, and may not be at all wise about managing money, his own or anyone else's.
Then he was verbally abusive and combative, and arguing about bringing up your son ( apparently without any particular experience or expertise in that field himself ). When such a man disappeared, instead of begging him to come back you could have been appropriately relieved and moved ahead on your own. Far better to be alone than abused and exploited with someone else.
THere should have been no need for you to keep quiet rather than to assert your wishes and needs. Maybe almost everyone deserves ONE second chance - he's had that and more. No more second chances.
Consult a lawyer, and maybe use the small claims court ( depending on how much money he owes ) to have the law force him to return the money he owes you. But otherwise do NOT allow him back into your life, as there will be no joy that way.
You know now that his apologies are manipulative and meaningless. There will be no value to you in seeing him again.
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