Our expert says:
Hmm. The other girls sounds FAR more problematic ( but an extraordinarily bad selection of someone to bully, if she threatens anyone with a gun and has acess to one ).
From your description, these sound like normal questions for a good counsellor to ask, to understand a child's background, and scan for any other potential problems. You can advise your daighter to tell the counsellor that you always discourage bullying, but do encourage her to stand up for herself if she herself is bullied. And tell her to tell the counsellor that you are happy to make some plan to meet with her to discuss any concerns she may have or advice she may offer.
The issues here are probably not ADHD related.
But it sounds as though you need and deserve some support and encouragement - maybe SADAG ( number on this page ) could have a useful support group within reach.
It sounds to me, and will probably sound the same to the counsellor, is that you are a good and concerned mom, over-stressed a bit, and maybe a bit over-harsh on yourself !
Oh, and as another reader remarked - go to maintenance court and ensure thatyour child's father has to pay proper maintenance to help with her expenses.
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