Our expert says:
I've never quite understood that "WHy are you Gay?" question, which is exactly like asking anyone else" Why are you Straight?" It's not as if sexual orientation is a choice offered to us as infants, on a menu, from which we can select. It's more what you are than what you choose to do about it. Which is why its not an easy thing to change. And its hard to reason yourself out of it, as you didn't reason yourself into it in the first place.
As it can be disadvantageous socially, to be gay, some folks do seem interested in trying to "change" towards straight ; and it appears to be sometimes possible, in psychotherapy, though this is very controversial and many shrinks don't think it a good idea and some of those who are enthusiastic about the idea seem rather weird in themselves, to me. I have never heard of a straight guy wanting to "change" and become gay, so whether movement in that direction is possible as a deliberate choice, we don't know.
What does seem more useful, is psychotherapy aimed at exploring these feelings ABOUT your own sexuality, to help you be accepting of yourself and who you are. It would be worth asking a local gay organization to recommend a gay-friendly therapist, that is, one who understands the situation and who won't bring his or her own bigorty into the room .
And as for going against nature, something that seems mighty like homosexuality is noticeable in many different animal species. But maybe they just haven't read the right books.
Also, remember that few people are 100 % gay, or 100 % straight, but somewhere on a continuum between those two extremes.
People who hate you just because you are gay, are bigots, as reprehensible as people who hate blacks for being black, or whites for being white. I can't see any good evidence that God hates you ; and from the disclosures in recent years of the doings of some priests and ministers, maybe the churches should be less ready to criticize and censure others on this point. And people like those troglodytes you quote, are hate merchants, and surely showing remarkable degrees of insecurity about their own sexuality. You're right, as they seethe with their grubby hatreds, they have no reason to fel superior to anyone, and many reasons to feel inferior to most.
Hatred is wrong, not love.
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