Our expert says:
Gay, lesbian and bisexual expert
Hi Confused, welcome to the forum and thanks for this post.
You're in love with someone other than your girlfriend. This is an issue irrespective of whether this someone is male or female.
A second issue is that you're discovering that you're attracted to men. How do you anticipate being in a straight relationship and managing your attraction to men?
A third issue that the someone is your girlfriend's brother, your brother-in-law to be. And he's only 18.
There are several layers here and it seems that unless you take a real hard look at reality this is a recipe for disaster.
You present yourself as an innocent participant without any ability to make decisions. Absolute nonsense; instead of saying "I don’t know what I will do if something happens between me and the brother... I am so confused!" you must know that something will only happen if you allow it to.
Assume some responsibility for your situation and even if you don't respect yourself, start respecting others who could possibly be hurt through your so-called confusion. Whatever you do don't get married until you're more sure of who you are as a person.
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