Our expert says:
I get the impression that you don't like this brother-in-law, his wife and kids, his oxen and his goats, and you're none too keen on their front lawn, either ?
But those chills down the spine sound like a bit too much. If your kids have lots of other friends, they won't necessarily insist on playing with nastyguy's kids, will they ?
I gather he's unpleasant, unreasonably disliked you from the start, and ignored your attempt to call a truce, so it's fair enough to not want to mix with him. But it sounds like this anger on your side is growing rather too much, to the point that it probably doesn't bother him ( indeed, you're probably helping him to feel that his initial dislike of you was justified, rather than realizing that he was unreasonable and unfair ). Now the anger is becoming more of a problem for you and your immediate family, than for him. You're giving him too much power to make you feel bad, by making him far too important. Thnink of counselling for yourself, to free yourself from this corrosive anger.
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