Our expert says:
There are many selfish men around, but it's rare to find one who recognizes that and decides to change - so well done.
Don't make life more complicated than it already is, with the Book, and the crafty entries, and so on.
Remember that it is NOT good for any child / daughter to give her everything she wants ( real life is not like that and if she assumes it should be, she'll be miserable later on ).
It is almost child abuse to bring up a child without loving firm discipline, as they need reasonable boundaries within which to operate.
Just as you provide for her a room with walls rather than leaving her to sleep in the open veld, so you must give her the moral walls of rules and boundaries.
If you have resolved to change, show your wife the respect of sitting down with her and telling her how you have recognized how you have been doing things wrong, and asking her advice about how to change for the better.
And work together to plan a set of rules for the child's good behaviour which you can then discuss with the child, together.
Make it clear that she must show respect for father and mother, and that you will both be expecting the same good behaviour and will both work by the same rules.
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