Our expert says:
Well, to a large extent it's normal, But it Is a problem you are creating for yourself. It is normal and understandable after forgiving someone twice for repeated hurtful acts, to find it impossible to forgive a third time. It would have been wise at the time for you both to get into marriage counselling --- both to see if the marriage could indeed be healed, but also so that if you parted, you could both be in a better state to get over it and to learn from it, to avoid such problems in future.
But having essential;ly given up, to be still weeping a year later is unwise, and indicates that you really need some personal counselling to get over this and move on. If "therapy" hasn't helped you to achieve that, then it was ineffective therapy, and CBT would be adviseable. Its not an issue of getting over love, but getting over an obsession with it
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