Our expert says:
The problem is to try to put oneslf in someone else's shoes, without tramping on their toes ! Aren't you getting a few things confused, so far ? She never cheated on you by having sex with someone else before she even knew you existed, did she ? If you feel that maybe your previous lack of experience has left you relatively inexperienced and unskilled, well, now you have a chance to gain experience and learn technique, with someone you love, who may have something to teach you, within a loving and faithful relationship. To be truly enjoyable, sex isn't about keeping scores ; as soon as you're worried about who's winning and who's losing, you've both lost. Quality counts more than mere quantity, and just cramming in a few more bangs for your buck won't improve your level of experience, or your confidence, or your happiness. To be fully enjoyed, sex isn't only the physical stuff --- that's only the easiest part --- but in the context of a real emotional relationship, it all means so much more. You have the opportunity for that within your present relationship, and couldn't get anything like that from just "banging a few" more. there's a few boxer dogs in our neighbourhood, who've surely "banged" many more than you and I added together --- but I'm not jealous of them, and feel no need to compete.
You can't get "even" without sliding further behind.
Now, you don't need to be "destroyed" by the fact that you're not her first, unless you absolutely insist that this must be so. Gee, it's pretty certain that you masturbated quite a bit before you met her --- should she be feeling deeply jealous because of this previous relationship with your own hand ? because she wasn't the first to bring you sexual pleasure ? If that sounds like a silly example, then just pause and think, it's actually not more illogical than insisting that your relationship with her must be worthless because she had sex with someone else before she met you.
And what if you do give up on this relationship, and start again, and find yourself a virgin --- should she feel outraged because you will have been "unfaithful" to her by having sex with someone else before you met her ?
What would the solution be ? To search for a girl who's had exactly the same number of experiences as you, with exactly the same number of partners ? Or is it a double standard, that it's OK for the guys to have other experiences, but not the gals ?
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