Our expert says:
Isn't it sad how often such arguments / fights arise from your saying something indirect rather than simp,y saying calmly what you actually mean ? Instead of saying that you feel lonely, say, and wish he could pay you a bit more attention, you may say something more annoying or cross hoping that it will draw mhis attention -- and then it gets the wrong sort of attention. Also, you seem to be saying that when you find it hard to express yourself in words, you weep --- and men find that exasperating and hard to handle --- they can't translate "weep" into something they can do something helpful about.
Sounds like he has learned how to control you, by silences, etc. MArriage counselling could help a lot if he could be convinced it would be useful for him, rather than something only for you. Personal counselling for you could help you to be more confidence, assertive and expressive.
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