Our expert says:
Far too many companies have far too many meetings, and they seem not to recognize how enormously expensive these are ( just add together the costs of all the salaries of those who attend them for so long, the work not otherwise done by those people, and the workl not done by people not in the meeting but waiting for input from those in the meeting, and all the lost opportunities !) An efficient company and office can't avoid some meetings, but should regularly review whether each meeting is actually essential and productive, and exactly who should be there. Too often, information which could be circulated ahead of time, so people can think about it in advance, is only delivered at the meeting, slowing everything down.
And if there are a bunch o others who also "love working late", this is really an inefficiently run business.
Working at night he is presmably working along, and not in active contact with other co-workers and so on, so to that extent that work could be done at home. But there is a sort of blessed peace that falls over many offices at night, when most people go home and you can work undisturbed. Could he work at home without being distracted and disturbed ? Can you make a plan for him to have some time with the kids ( while unwinding from the trip home, which may be more frazzling done earlier than later ) and then let him have a kid-free zone to work in ?
From the sound of it, there is not an afffair ( except with his work ) but a not very well organized guy trying hard in a badly organized organization.
If his career, and perhaps that of others, depends on so much routine overtime, this is a lousy company and he should perhaps think of looking for alternative work with a company that is properly run.
I'm sure you have not "turned him off" --- it's the job that has done that.
Any possibility of eprsuading him to join you in some sesions of marriage counselling ?
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