Our expert says:
Not quite my special area of expertise, Molly ! but you two sound like a strong and effective and loving couple. If the amount of the lobola seems to you to be too high ( you're in a better position to assess that ) maybe talk it over with your parents, and point out to them how much he has contributed towards your sucesses in life, and his contributions to the house and its furnishings, and see if they'd consider a lower amount. And is it practical to lend him the money, so he can pay it back to you over time, rather than having to find the full some at once, or to become dependent on loan sharks ?
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