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Hi to you Bollie, welcome to the forum and thanks for posting.
A marked difference in sexual drive can easily cause hassles in a relationship and invariably the best solution is a compromise. Your partner seems to a 'black & white', 'all or nothing' kinda guy which hasn't been conducive to negotiating sexual interactions in your relationship.
I would say the jury is still out on whether you cheated or not. For example, I'm not convinced that looking at porn is 'cheating', unless this has been discussed and both parties have for some reason agreed that its only something they do together. Similarly, the jury is out regarding chat sites - was this ever discussed by you guys?
The question is where you draw the line. Is fantasy about a hot guy or hot scene during masturbation 'cheating'? Is a straight men who, after many years of marriage, fantasizes about someone else while he has sex with his wife 'cheating'? If he is, the vast majority of us have 'cheated'.
I think your partner is being unreasonable. And no, based on the info you've provided, I doubt that you're addicted to sex. You sound like someone who's insightful and in touch with his feelings. You clearly feel bad about this so give it a few days and suggest couple counselling again. And stop assuming the blame - this is something that happened between you guys and after 6 years together you should be able to sort it out.
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