Our expert says:
Donna, you will indeed never be happy again, so long as you refuse to allow yourself to be happy again. Looking back on past relationships, we often fool ourselves nto thinking that they were far more blisful than they actually were. If you were all that amazingly happy --- who would you have chosen to break up with him ? You decided to break with him, and badly hurt his feelings. However, he has been sensible, and has moved on with his life and is preparing to be genuinely and, we hope, persistently happy.
Stop trying in any way to interfere in his new life, and let that relationship fade into your past history. It is over. Follow his good example, and move on with your own life. Stop trying to talk with him and leave him and his new wife and child in peace. Now attend to you current relationship. Have you only been using this new guy, with whom you now have a child ? Why not concentrate on making this relationship work ? The grievances you describe are relatively petty and should be easily soluble with good will, and maybe with some marriage counselling. Stop trying to run away from your problems ( or, in this case, also running towards your problems ), and deal with them.
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