Our expert says:
Well done on finding the courage to leave an abuser. But DO NOT accept his invitation to feel guilty --- his abuse was the fault, and the reason for you leaving and perhaps for his depression, not you. Do NOT go back --- only an idiot would blame you for his illness --- advise him to see a shrink to change his bad habits as well as to treat his depression, and continue to protect yourself and the girls --- and call POWA for support and advice.
It doesn't matter at all whether he chooses to realize that you didn't do this to hurt him --- what matters is that YOu realize that. Like most bullies, he likes dishing out the hurt, but doesn't like feeling any --- and his victim has escaped. As you sem to have given him good advice --- stop answering his calls, and if necessary go to court and get a restraining order to keep him away from you three rand to stop him contacting you.
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