Posted by: Someone | 2007/03/06

I know I'm a pain..sorry cs..

My ex wanted to have lunch on Sunday - I told him that I couldn't because I had some urgent work to do. He was a bit upset, like he gets to tell me what to do.

I have not seen him since last week Wednesday and have kept the communication to a minimum, though over the weekend he sent me sms's early in the mornings asking me whether I'm still awake..sending me messages telling me how sexy I am etc.

I would either not reply or reply in a very formal context. Today he asked me again to have lunch with him, so I went and while waiting for our orders to arrive I asked him whether he has found someone else to go to the weddings with him, at first he did not want to tell me - turns out he's going with some thing that caused a lot of problems between us when we were still together, they had an emotional affair (though, CONVENIENTLY, he does not see it that way).

Everytime I meet up with him I REGRET it and I feel like breaking something. He knows that I'm upset with him now, and had the audacity to tell me that 'we're not together anymore'. Yes!! I know!! why is he so adamant on spending time with me when I desperately need to forget him.

When we got back to my office after lunch, he tried to give me a good bye kiss and I turned my cheek..I mean WTF!!!! I hate him for always taking it so casually when I tell him that he hurts my feelings!! I feel like getting rid of my phone, moving away and never ever talking to him again.

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I don't think you are both singing from the same hymn-sheet. Your ideas of what your relationship is, or isn;t, and your mutual expectations, sound radically different. A relationship that is over, ought to be over/

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Posted by: Joy | 2007/03/07

No you cant, and you shouldnt! Someone you know what you need to already know! I know it must be very hard especially when you're thinking long term and all you're asking for is a RING!..but goodness man..i'm sure you can think of a few guys that would jump at the chance to marry you! Just remind yourself of that...even though its really HIS commitment that he wants! I always say, if he knows exactly what you want and still refuses/delays/comes up with excuses not to..he's deliberately denying it for it happiness..or feeling whole or wanted..he's deliberately denying you the happiness you deserve! and you should just leave.

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Posted by: Someone | 2007/03/07

I don't want bad feelings between us, I don't believe in keeping a grudge, but I do keep the communication to a minimum. I try to distance myself from him physically and emotionally, but find that after a while I start 'trusting' him again, agree to see him (as a friend) and end up getting burnt/hurt.

We broke up because he's moving to another city next year and could not make his long term intentions clear (he could say it, but not show it). I can't just give up everything to move with someone who seemingly is not sure what he wants.

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Posted by: kb | 2007/03/07

Why are you still seeing the ex and by the way why did you leave each other.

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