Our expert says:
Some of us are, indeed, lumbered with awkward or embarrassing names. But generally if it really troubles them they change it. Wasn't the great and butch cowboy film star John Wayne actually named Marion ?
Why do so many people at home insist on calling you by the name you don't like ? Habit ? Or do they somehow enjoy irritating you ? It often turns out that even without realizing it they are responding to your irritation, and if you can stop reacting to their using the name, but just calmly correct them, its no sort of fun for them and they may just stop doing it.
Now, as for your gf, if she really is the great lady you think she is, surely if you simp[ly calmly explained to her than some people, annoyingly, call you by an old family name you very much dislike, she would understand, ignore those who use the other name, and love you just the same ? After all, it's you she loves, not the name.
OK, so Matlakala isn't the greatest of names, but it could be worse. Someone I know was for years cheerfully called "Stinker" by his parents, who thought it was cute !
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