Our expert says:
If he feels sure he has to support his family, and can't afford to get married to you, why did he pay lobola and have a child with you ? It is his moral and legal duty to may proper maintenance for the child already, so except for a wedding ( which doesn't have to be the bloated expensive affairs we so often seem to expect these days ) there might be little additional expense.
And if he can't afford to marry you, and support his child, his child's mother and his family - how can he possible afford to date another girl ?
If he really means that you are special to him, he needs to show it, in develop[ing jhis relationship with you and nobody else. The fact that the other girl called you suggests there is more going on between them and she is trying to break you up.
Having paid Lobola, aren't your family and his interested in trying to see what's going on, and to sort this out fairly ?
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