Our expert says:
What a sad story, W ! As your children are adults now, the option of separation or divorce is maybe more obviously open to you now. Sounds like your husband has been repeatedly unfaithful, and clumsily so, too.
I understand your feeling that way, but fortunately all man are NOT the same as him --- just as all women are not like those who were happy to encourage him to cheat on you with them. YOu seem to feel, also understandably, that nowadays the only reason he doesn't cheat on you is because he is physically unable to do so. His accident and impotence seem to have been poetic justice.
You're right thatany physical attack on the foolish women who helped him to cheat on you would be of no benefit to you, though you have no obligation to protect them from their family's discovering what they chose to do.
You have every right to be pissed off at life as it has been this far, but not at life itself --- see a counsellor to help you work through all this and learn to love the life you can be free to lead.
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