Our expert says:
Do you understand what you mean when you say "mature enough" to have a baby ? ( you don't mention your actual age ) Are there aspects in which you feel some sense of lack AND which you feel confident you will somehow develop in the next couple of years ?
When you married your husband, did you feel differently ? If not, did you frankly tell him how you felt about not wanting children ?
Affording a child financially is of course a valid and important reason for some caution, but you seem to be talking about not affording one emotionally, an issue which might not be so easily solved.
Children are to be had for the child's sake, above all, and then your own desire to love and care for it ; whether or not your mother or mother-in-law want grandchildren is hardly relevant.
Many things can affect the appearance and attractiveness of a person's body, and children are very far from universally degrading the mother's appearance in the manner you seem to be assuming. And your experience in a plastic surgeon's office is biased and misleading - why would any woman NOT damaged in some way go to see a plastic surgeon at all ?
Your arguments with yourself are, as you probably notice, contradictory. If the main concern is that having a baby will make your body look ugly, that wouldn't be different in a few years time, would it ?
Maybe seeing a couples counsellor together would help you to understand each other better, and work towards more useful decision-making ?
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