Our expert says:
Your Ex-hubby had no right to breach your confidence and tell anyone about your HIV status, and probably only did it to be mean ( taking back everything he gave you sounds mean, too). But it was definitely your duty to tell your new bf of your HIV status, for many good reasons. I understand that you say you were going to tell him, and hadn't yet had sex, and it is up to you to find a suitable time and opportunity.
What to do ? Depends on what needs to be done. You obviously need to talk with the bf, and find out how he feels about this, and sort things out together. As for the mean and nasty ex, check with one of the AIDS/ HIV hotlines on the legalities, but you might be able to get a restraining order from a court to stop him maliciously spreading gossip about you.
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