Our expert says:
Its a pity, isn't it, when, as is so often the case, a couple embarks on such significant developments in life without really having genuinely discussed it beforehand, or just assuming they each know what the other would want. Making a baby requires both of you to have participated, and unless due to an unforeseen failure of contraception, if contraception was not being used, a pregnancy was to be expected for BOTH of you.
Was he taken entirely by surprise ? And then for him to plunge into bed with another women so soon afterwards, sugests he takes sex and its consequences rather frivolously. And are you saying that he was happy for the community to know he was having this other affair, but considered that YOU ruined his reputation ? How ? By falling pregnant ? What "reputation" did he have ? Was he admited for being sterile ?
anyhow, in a way you may be more likely to "move on" if, rather than concentrating on "forgetting" him ( which entails thinking about him to try to deliberately forget him ) you instead concentrated on other things such as your own needs, and the baby.
Counselling could help, such as by clarifying the nature of your profound sense of hurt, and how to move beyond that.
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