Our expert says:
Sounds like the shrink is being a bit unrealistic - until the child CAN communicate verbally, you will need to use some sort of sign language - or how else are you to communicate with him ? I can understand that if they are setting up a system at the school to strongly encourage him to speak / to understand spoken words, and think he can do so, they would want him to need to concentrate on that and not prefer signs which he may find easier, though relying on them will handicap him in the long run.
Maybe you can arrange to meet the shrink or someone similar at the school, as they, having assessed the boy well, should be able to advise you on how to handle him when he is with you.
Your son, who gets on well with the kid, may be important and useful in helping.
It is fair and good of you to help your aunt in this way. The idea that she should thinkm of relocating to Gauteng could be a good one - again, worth discussing with the school, as this depends on how long he will be there, and what his real outlook is for the future.
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