Posted by: Dusty | 2009/07/15

How to get the spark back

Please help me.
I have been married for nearly 3 years. I love my husband very much, but feel absolutely no sexual attraction to him whatsoever. I want to get the spark back. We are trying to start a family which is stressful enough, without feeling like sex is hard work or something that I have to do. I have had to resort to watching porn to get aroused. I feel ashamed of this because it is not natural and I feel it is cheating.. but at the moment it is the only thing that arouses me. I have no desire to look for a lover elsewhere as I am committed to my marriage.
Please give me some advice on how I can feel sexually attracted to my husband again.

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Our expert says:
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If you can get aroused watching porn there is probably nothing physically wrong with you.(and BTW its not cheating)
the problem is probably in your relationship.
you need to see a sexologist to find out where the problem lies
call the helpline for a referral helpline 0860 100 262

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