Our expert says:
Sounds like High School was the last time your brother felt like a Big Man, and as if he resents having to grow up and face the responsibilities a genuine Big Man would face, and to still be behaving like a spoilt adolescent ( on the good days ! ). This sounds like a personality disorder rather than an illness as such. It can be helped, by psychotherapy / skilled counselling, by an expert who won't let him use his regular excuses, and will confront him with the need to change and help him to achieve such change --- but this is impossible unless he accepts, sincerely, that he DOES have a problem and that he DOES need to change --- and that this requires both expert input and hard work by he, himself. If he can manage to face that and start treatment, then there will also be an essental need to change your mother's way of protecting him from the consequences of his bad decisions. Like weaning, though it may be resented at first, it is important to know when to withhold the teat and the bottle, and get the child to engage with the realities of life.
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