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I do know, BT< that the more one contemplates work, the more boring or intimindating it becomes, whereas if one simplt starts without too much thinking about it, one can often get caught up in it and soar off. But havn't you really answered your own question, as regards the cause of this and other problems ? After over a bottle of wine, none of us feel motivated the next say, and it increases anyone's depression, as well. You clearly need to find and stick to non-drinking friends, don't you ? It's one of the hardest aspects to giving up unhelpful booze, to avoid friends who always drink with you, situations in which you always drink, and so on.
The two of you WERE highly motivated to drink, and managed to show perseverance and ingenuity when it came to finding more to drink. Stop selecting"Give UP' as the most tempting available choice. Work on this with your shrink, and admit all the drinking problems. Join AA, take every step that is available and provides support for the resolve you have shown at times this year ( and remember how much better you felt when you did do the right things, of which you are fully capable ). And get CBT to break out of that fortress of negativity you have built for yourself.
You've had brilliant responses from others here, like CHelle, and straycat. Well done to have identified the nearest AA group. Don't try to go to it --- GO to it. And een if you feel uneasy and unsure about whether it can help you, PERSIST in going for 6 months before deciding whether it's helpful or not. There are no possible or even imaginable consequences to stopping drinking that could be worse than the consequences of continuing drinking.
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