Our expert says:
Anniversary Reactions, getting miserable at the anniversary of some significant loss, are not unusual, but not helpful, and usually indicate that the person would benefit from proper counselling to finished getting over their loss.
Especially if, as you say, it was he who destroyed the marriage, its important that he learn useful lessons from the experience and move on, rather than simply recycling old misery.
You may indeed have outgrown this guy, and its fair to try to halp but to recognize when a person is actually refusing constructive help. And/or when he's using engagement with you as a way of avoiding facing facts and seeing a real local counsellor directly. Your concerns aren't trivial at all.
Simply tell him that you find it discouraging that its impossible to help him both due to the distance and due to your lack of professional qualifications, and urge him instead, to contact and work with a local counsellor, where he is
And then unfriend him
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