Our expert says:
That sounds like an awfully rapid decision to divorce, on insufficient grounds, and apparently making no use of mariage counselling to see if the problems he felt wwere there could be resolved, or at least that you could both feel more sure that you had tried to sort them out.
One can have a "midlife crisis" at any age, and it makes sense that apparently he felt regrets. I'm amazed that it was possible to arrange an actual legal divorce so rapidly. There is value in the system not being in too much of a hurry over processing them.
This sort of ambiguous, unreasonable sort-of ending to a relationship makes it especially difficult for you to move on. Consciously or unconsciously, you may be reluctant to move on lest he suddenly change his mind again and want to return. All of this is highly unfair to you.
Could you persuade him that the way things are going is especially difficult and hurtful for you, and persuade him to join you in couples counselling - not with a necessary committment to geting back together, but to help you both better understand what happend and what is happening now, and to make wiser decisions about the future, rather than floating on in ambiguity.
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