Our expert says:
I think you're being really realistic. This new courting, re-courting phase may indeed be enjoyable. But you also need to talk with him seriously, in a safe place ( like a restaurant or coffee--shop, about the realities. That it is his verbal abuse, and the threatening with a gun, that you very rightly fear and cannot subjct yourself to, again.
whether or not he can hear what he needs to hear, without anger, who knows ? That's why it's usually wisest to choose a setting in which he won't want to cause a scene. But he needs to know what has caused the separation, and that your fears are realistic and sensible, and that no amount of wooing will remove them. And unless he can come up with something unusually convincing about how he will prevent those threats from ever arising again, perhaps entering serious therapy to deal with it, he needs to know that you can't put yourself at risk again.
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