Our expert says:
Sometimes people really want to avoid dealing with issues ; sometimes we differ in the style we prefer to use in dealing with issues.
All people, maybe especially men, are sensitive to even mildly implied criticism of their sexual performance.
And maybe he had indeed had some concerns about your weight gain or other aspects of your side of the act, which he had not worked out a way of raising, until he blurted it out in an ugly way when stung by even your gently phrased concern.
You seem to have wisely dealt with the suggestion by working on improving your health, and have been rewarded by the related return to the p[revious quality of sexual relations - except that you are still remembering the hurt from his clumsy remark.
My comment about "different styles" may be illustrated by your observation that while he hasn't explicitly apologised in so many words, he has shown regret and contrition in other ways.
Maybe marriage counselling would be a wise option to explore, as there are probably a few other aspects of the relationship which could do with brushing up, as well as dealing with this issue of the hurt he caused.
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