Posted by: stormy | 2008/09/10

how do i make it thru today

hi ppl. todays a very sad day for me and my bf we lost our baby in febuary i had a miscarriage at 9 wud of been the day my baby wud have been born :( i made dis far but its hard sometimes to move forward with life.i lite a candle today in memory of our do we make it thru today and the rest of our lifes?

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Sorry to hear of this, stormy --- there are so many sad anniversaries, aren't there ? And these are often the most difficult times to handle our grief. Light a candle for her, and remember that by going on with life you are honouring her in a way that giving up would never do. Live for her, and move on.

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Posted by: stormy | 2008/09/12

thank you kate for that poem it touched my heart and thank you all for your replies. it helps to know that am not alone :( god bless you' ll

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Posted by: kate | 2008/09/11

This poem may help you...

What Makes a Mother?

I thought of you and closed my eyes
And prayed to God today
I asked “ What makes a Mother?” 
And I know I heard him say.

“ A Mother has a baby” 
This we know is true
“ But God can you be a Mother,
when your baby is not with you?” 

“ Yes, you can,”  He replied
with confidence in his voice
“ I give many women babies,
when they leave is not their choice.

Some I send for a lifetime,
and others for the day.
And some I send to feel your womb,
but there’ s no need to stay.” 

“ I just don’ t understand this God
I want my baby to be here.” 
He took a deep breath and cleared his throat,
and then I saw the tear.

“ I wish I could show you
what your child is doing today.
If you could see your child’ s smile,
with all the other children and say… 

“ We go to Earth to learn our lessons,
of love and life and fear.
My Mommy loved me oh so much,
I got to come straight here.

I feel so lucky to have a Mom,
who had so much love for me.
I learned my lessons very quickly,
My Mommy set me free.

I miss my Mommy oh so much,
but I visit her every day.
When she goes to sleep,
on her pillow’ s were I lay

I stroke her hair and kiss her cheek
and whisper in her ear.
‘ Mommy don’ t be sad today,
I’ m your baby and I’ m here.’ ” 

“ So you see my dear sweet ones,
your children are okay.
Your babies are born here in My home,
and this is where they’ ll stay.

They’ ll wait for you with Me,
until your lesson’ s through.
and on the day that you come home
they’ ll be at the gate for you.

So now you see what makes a Mother,
it’ s the feeling in your heart.
It’ s the love you had so much of
right from the very start

Though some on Earth may not realise,
you are a Mother
until their time is done.
they’ ll be up here with Me one day
and know that you are the best one!” 

Written by: Jennifer Wasik in memory of Zachery Thomas Wasik.

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Posted by: Kate | 2008/09/11

I am sorry for you Stormy. I lost my first son at 36 weeks of pregnancy and lost my second pregnancy at 6 weeks. I feel for you and simply have this advice...

Talk about your baby, talk to you baby and know that his/her time in your life was happy and that you will always treasure it. There are no reasons good enough for why we lose our babies and it is grief that stays with us forever. But eventually you learn to accept their loss as a part of your life. And you will be happy again and possible try for more babies. Nothing will replace the baby you lost and he/she will always have a special place in your heart and in your family.

" We hold you close within our hearts,
and there you will remain,
to walk with us throughout our lives,
until we meet again." 

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Posted by: Lin | 2008/09/10

Sorry for your loss.

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Posted by: EL | 2008/09/10

I don' t know what to say, but I feel for you! May God be with you!

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Posted by: stormy | 2008/09/10

thanx guys and cs. its just so hard this is the hardest thing i ever had to go thru.thanx for all your kind words

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Posted by: butterfly | 2008/09/10

Hi Stormy

Im really sorry for your lose, Be strong may God richly bless you. You gonna be fine time heals all wounds. Good luck

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Posted by: . | 2008/09/10

Near a shady wall a rose once grew,
Budded and blossomed in God'  s free light:
Watered and fed by morning dew,
Shedding its sweetness day and night.
As it grew and blossomed fair and tall,
Slowly rising to loftier height,
It came to a crevice in the wall,
Through which there shone a beam of light.
Onward it crept with added strength
With never a thought of fear or pride,
It followed the light through the crevice length,
And unfolded itself on the other side.
The light, the dew, the broadening view
Were found the same as they were before.
And it lost itself in beauties new.
Breathing its fragrance more and more.
Shall claim of death cause us to grieve,
And make our courage faint or fall?
Nay, let us faith and hope receive,
The rose still grows beyond the wall.
Scattering fragrance far and wide,
Just as it did in days of yore.
Just as it did on the other side,
Just as it will forevermore.


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