Our expert says:
You raise many interesting and significant point. One is that some family policies arise from views that have't been sufficiently thought-through, and tend to be uncritically accepted without examination of whether they are indeed the wisest policy in each specific situation ( many policies ought not to assume a One-Size Fits All application ).
And of course a policy might SAY that " you must always feel free to talk with us about anything" without actually making sure that individuals who rely on it will feel genuinely aboe to so talk, or genuinely not regret having done so. People like to think of themselves as a non-judgemental and supportive person everyone should feel free to talk to, while actually being highly judgemental and unpleasant to anyone who actually accepts the invitation.
And of course your experience also shows how, even though we may feel we have altogether gotten over life events, when something similar arises in someone close to you, many unfinished regrets and concerns may arise again. And as you wisely observe, use this second arrival of your emotions as an opportunity to complete the work not finished earlier, probably now with the aid of counselling. And in such counselling, you can also explore this issue of feeling the need to parent your parents, when maybe that game needs to stop, especially if they are proving, yet again, unable to accept advice
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