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Posted by: A | 2005/12/05

Hoe hanteer ek tweegesig vriende?

Ek het glad nie 'n lekker naweek gehad nie. My X is die naweek getroud met die meisie wat ons huwelik opgebreek het. Die troue het my nie so ontstel nie, maar wel twee van my sogenaamde "vriendinne" wat na die troue uitgenooi is, hulle werk saam en toe die troue bygewoon het. Ek voel hulle is agterbaks en tweegesigte, want altyd is hulle so oor my besorg en vra my gedurig gunsies en dingetjies om vir hulle en hul kinders te doen. Nou kom hulle na my toe en kom vertel alles oor van die troue. Ek het net gese ek stel glad nie belang om iets van die troue te hoor nie. Hoe hanteer ek hierdie "vriendinne: vorentoe?

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Posted by: JAY | 2005/12/05

Hulle is nie vriende nie... hulle is opportuniste!!!! Ek het lank reeds mense wat my as 'n emosionele kruk of 'n vloerlap gebruik uit my lewe gesny. Die wereld is 'n aangenamer plek sonder vriende/inne wat jou meesleur in hul selfsug. Dit is vrome gedrag. Gee hulle die trekpas.

Mans gee 'n vrou genoeg drama soos dit is - jy't vriendinne nodig wat ondersteunend gaan wees, nie jou neus in die "Affair" troue vryf vir lekkerkry nie. BASTA met hulle. Jy's nie 'n "door mat" nie.

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Posted by: lady nina | 2005/12/05

hi girl

why do you think they are 2faced?

where they friends with hubby?
have they told you in as many word that they side with you and there for will have no contact with the ex?

when people split up friends also suffers, why should they lose a friend? nothing was done to them... they like both of you so why should they have to choose

unless they directly told you that they will have no contact with the ex, they did nothing wrong

but yes you felt let down witch is totally understandable
but now you have to find new friends or else they will always be able to hurt you by telling you stories

if you get divorces you lose more than just a partner - you lose friends and famaly aswell

take care

nina

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Posted by: SR | 2005/12/05

Personally I cannot stand two faced people. I shed them quickly from my life and cut them out totally, forever

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Posted by: Pencil | 2005/12/05

I think you should sit down, and decide if you can really call them friends... Seems to me like they are a bit sneaky, being nice to you, but doing things behind your back. Just an opinion... I think you should have an open heart-to-heart talk with both of them (seperately) and then hear what they have to say. I hope things work out for you and that they really are your friends. Good luck and let us know how you're doing. PS: keep strong!

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