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Posted by: Worried | 2004/03/02

HIV tests

I had sex with a prostitute more than a year ago and since then I have night sweats, flu, I've lost weight, no energy and I am just not well. Since then I have had 17 HIV tests, and I know it sounds crazy, but I can't believe they are negative. I keep on going back for another test every month, how long should I still test and why am I feeling like this.

PS. I did use a condom when I went with the prostitute, and I'm married with children, and I'm really scared that I will infect my whole family.

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Many people are fearful that they have HIV, even though they are either at very low risk of infection, or have tested negative for HIV. The common term informally used to describe people in this situation is "worried well." This
term generally refers to people who are worried (or convinced) that they have a particular disease, even though they are physically well (in other words, they do not actually have the disease). "Worried well" is not a formal psychiatric term, so you may not find this expression in any psychology textbook. But this term is in common use among many health professionals and among the general population.

Among "worried well" people who are scared of having HIV/AIDS, the actual problem is usually psychological, rather than medical. Psychological problems commonly associated with "worried well" people include:

Clinical depression
Anxiety disorders (severe anxiety)
Severe guilt
Phobias (Having an irrational fear)
Obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD)
Other psychological disorders
These psychological problems can only be diagnosed by a qualified
mental-health counselor, a psychologist or a psychiatrist.

In regard to HIV/AIDS, how do you know if you are a "worried well" person?
Ask yourself these questions:

Are you scared of having HIV/AIDS, even when you have been told that you areat low risk (or no risk) of getting the infection? Are you having a difficult time accepting the fact that you are at low risk or no risk?

Are you scared of having HIV, even though you have tested negative on an antibody test after six months? Are you having a difficult time accepting the fact that you are HIV negative? Have you taken HIV tests over and over
and over? Have you taken PCR tests, viral load tests, CD4 counts, antigen tests, HIV-2 tests, etc., even though you have been told that you do not clinically need to take these tests? Are you fearful of having the Group "O"
strain of HIV (or other rare and unusual strains)? Are you insisting to your doctor that you take these tests, even though your doctor tells you that you do not need to take them? Have you spent hundreds or thousands of dollars on
HIV tests?

Are your fears of having HIV interfering with your day-to-day life, especially on an ongoing basis? Has your fear of HIV began to interfere with your relationships, your job, your home life, your school work, etc.?

Have you called AIDS hotlines numerous times asking the same question(s)?

Have you spent numerous hours on the Internet reading about AIDS because you think you may be infected (despite being told that you are not infected, or that you are at low risk)?

When it comes to AIDS-related issues, have you thought of yourself as being paranoid or obsessed?

Are you convinced that every symptom you are having is due to HIV/AIDS, despite being told that you are at low risk for HIV, or despite lab tests showing that you are not infected with HIV?

Has an AIDS hotline, a doctor or another medical professional, suggested that you seek mental-health counseling?

Has your doctor prescribed you with an antidepressant medication because of your fears relating to AIDS?
If you have answered yes to some of these questions, you may want to consider talking to a mental-health counselor to identify the true cause of your fears. In addition, if your doctor has prescribed an antidepressant
medication for you, it is very important that you go into counseling in addition to taking your medications. Antidepressants and similar drugs are not "happy pills." They must be used along with mental-health counseling in
order to be helpful.

Counseling cannot be done over the telephone or over the computer.
Counseling can only be done in person. Solving these types of problemsusually takes multiple counseling sessions (not just one or two). To find a counselor in your area, look in the yellow pages of your phone book under
"Mental Health" or a similar heading. You may also want to contact yourlocal mental-health center, or, if you prefer, a religious figure (such as a priest, minister or rabbi) with counseling experience. Often, a general
counselor is all you need. However, if your case is very severe, you may be referred to a psychiatrist (a physician who specializes in psychiatric disorders).

In summary, if your fear of having HIV is interfering with your day-to-day life on an ongoing basis, then I strongly suggest you consider talking to a mental-health counselor regarding your fears. Remember, mental health is
just as important as physical health!

If you are in Gauteng call the DISA clinic on (011) 787 - 1222 and make an appointment to see a counsellor, or call the AIDS Hotline 0800 0123 322 for a referral elsewhere in the country.

Dr Elna Mcintosh

The information provided does not constitute a diagnosis of your condition. You should consult a medical practitioner or other appropriate health care professional for a physical exmanication, diagnosis and formal advice. Health24 and the expert accept no responsibility or liability for any damage or personal harm you may suffer resulting from making use of this content.

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Our users say:
Posted by: yebo | 2004/03/03

Is there a way that this could be posted on the HIV EXPERT SITE? This could help a lots of people ek se. I was in the same boat as well but not totally out but this can be very frustrating.

Dr Elna Mcintosh you really know what you are talking about.

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