Posted by: Myself | 2009/06/12

HIV test

i have been with
this guy for a year and half. when we met we agreed we going for a hiv test togeter..then time went by we somehow didnt have time to do that or couldt find a less doctor because we dont know any clinics were we i found a doctor that we can go to. but he dont want to go anymore.he keeps saying i have nothing to woorry about.he is sleeping with me only.why do i want to go? it because i dont trust him?
i mean realy
i dont know if i should just go alone so i dont get this accusations or i should drug him and drive him to the doctor.please help.
thank you.
maybe i am not asking him in in a right manner

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That he has changed his mond about being tested nw that you've found a doctor, is a bit sinister. Discuss this with him, and explain that i he's nervous acounsellor should be able to help him deal with this, but that you hesitate to continue a sexual relationship with him if he doesn't get tested, and that you're going ahead to get tested as he had previously agreed you would both do. And remind him that so long as he was HIV free when you met, and he has been sleeping only with you, he couldn't have become HIV positive, so you are understandably worried about why he now hesitates to take the test.
Its entirely reasonably for you to be worried and suspicious. and don't blame yourself for his hesitation. Unfortunaely, druging him and rdragging him along would not be allowed ! But get yourself tested as soon as posible, anyway.

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Posted by: sideways | 2009/06/12

He could just be irrationally anxious. You should ask him openly and honestly but in a calm manner. If it is irrational fear then councelling beforehand will help, but if he simply outright refuses without provinding a satisfactory reason, then you must go on your own and decide after you have received your results what next. The important thing here is to look after you first. Do the test, know your status and take it from there. Good luck. God bless.

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Posted by: Kelly | 2009/06/12

Maybe he has something to be worried about and thats why he dsnt want to go anymore.Eve if he dsnt want to go, you go on your own.

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Posted by: Liza | 2009/06/12

Ouch. I don' t see why anyone in a relationship will refuse to go for an HIV test TOGETHER. Unless he has something to hide. In this day and age it should be made illegal not to know your HIV status. Although he might just be anxious of what he might find out. Counseling might help with this.

Good Luck

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