Our expert says:
I suppose self stimulation would relieve the need to have an orgasm, but it does not do anything to connect the two of you. When you make love to someone you are completely vulnerable and it is as much a physical act as it is a spiritual one.
Talk to her, find a way of connecting at an emotional, cognitive and spritual level (not religious), hopefully the physical will follow
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