Our expert says:
The cause of the problem needs to be established, and this is very important as such difficulties can be a sign of significant health concerns!
There are a number of reasons for decline in libido, including depression, side effect of medication, relationship difficulties, drug use, and hormone imbalance (too high levels of some hormones, or too low levels of testosterone). There is recent research into something called the metabolic syndrome - if he has a waist size of greater than size 34 plus one or two of the following: diabetes, high blood pressure, high cholesterol or high lipids, he could suffering from this - erectile difficulties may be an indicator of this syndrome. This syndrome is relevant to sex drive in that testosterone may be broken down by hormones secreted by bodily fat, and therefore not available for his sexual response. I go into this much detail to show you that it is quite complex and there are some significant health concerns, not just sexual. So even if he won't go to a therapist, try to encourage him to have a general check up, with the doctor knowing about some of these concerns, so that he/she (the GP) can be directed to the sorts of tests / intervention required.
This is a very difficult issue to resolve if he is reluctance to seek any help/assistance at all though. I wonder if it is all the more difficult for a woman to insist on some action being taken as this is really contrary to many stereotypes of both men and woman..? However, just like I would advise a man in a similar circumstance, you need to make sure you have communicated loud and clear what your concerns about this are. For example: impact on your esteem and loss of that part of yourself (sexually and generally - many of us need to feel warmth and affection to boost how we feel about ourselves), potential for his suffering from a physical problem which requires medical attention (discussed above), impact on the relationship (distancing and increased potential for breakdown/infidelity). If none of these are sufficient for him to go for an assessment, then you have a decision to make...
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