Our expert says:
Our sexuality develops from birth and you have had a number of sexually confusing experiences and a string of abuses. Whatever happened before you were 16 technically counts as abuse and the law for statutary rape is clear and applies to both males and females.
The great majority of children experiment sexually as their sexuality grows, and some of your experiences are normative whilst others such as being the passive recipient of sodomy (anal penetration) is not.
Your experiences with women and the rejection you have experienced have also not helped you to establish your sexuality (sence of sexual position or place).
We often are drawn to an "uncomfortable comfort zone" even when we know that it is not good for us. Perhaps you find yourself in this place now.
As to whos fault it was, only you can judge, bearing in mind that you were young and inexperienced, not to mention vulnerable. The question to ask is what can you change right now, and will your ability to forgive stretch to this person too?
I suggest you take a step back and look at yourself, if necessary seek the help of a therapist and rediscover who you really are. The normal stages of development sexually in your case have had hiccups and some tragedies, abuse and this possibly has left you with a less than accurate sense of self. You need to value your true magnificence which other people have tried to steal or hijack from you.
Please give me some feedback on this forum as to what I have said and we can continue the discussion.
Life Coach for Men
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