Our expert says:
And we thought that slavery had been abolished some years ago. You are describing an abusive husband, slefish and abusive towards you and the children. This is the issue that needs to be dealt with. I get the impression that this is not uncommon in the military, where the louse gets to spend all day ordering other people around, then comes home and orders his family around l and he's used to being obeyed, and to dismissing inconvenient opinions, like that of the Social Worker. The Social Workers, in turn, should be far more assertive, including reporting such men to their commanding officers for discipline where appropriate.
Hitting children on the head is not justifiable, and is risky. And don't feel guilty about expecing your teenage son to help out around the house --- apart from simple justice, this is helping himk learn how real men behave, raher than being encouraged to follow the awful example of his father, the blustering bully. Amd don't accept the false message such abusers like to push onto you, that somehow it's your fault that he can't be bothered to behave properly.
Why not call a group like POWA to discuss the siuation with their staff, who have much experience in helping abused women and their families ?
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